Thanks, Lesley! I think that, once we realize how exhausting wallowing actually is, it's hard to go back! I've learned to feel it and let it pass through rather than hold on (because, you know, it needs to be examined, fully inspected). Let it pass and let it go. And don't be afraid to just have a good cry. Get it out. 20 minutes later, things will feel much better. Aside from slightly puffy eyes. But those, too, shall pass! xo
Pain is pain. No matter how you slice it. That's my wisdom of the day. Hehehe. Great piece. It took me a long time to learn the things you mention. Important stuff.
Thank you for the shout-out Sandra!! But also, thank you for the invitation (nudging? shoving?) to dig deeper. To get realer. We got lost in the cliches of grief, the surface-level stories. But if we stay there, we're going to miss a lot of the healing, and a lot of the gifts! Deeply enjoying your sassy little substack, and good luck with your seminar!!
Thanks so much, Sue! I truly appreciate it! It's funny how we both want to avoid pain and feel the need to stay in it, as if moving forward makes us less human. As if the pain is something we need. We don't need the pain, just the lesson from it. Pain is the wrapping paper. What we learn from it is the gift. xo
I like the idea of setting a date, a time limit on the lingering doubts and wallowing. Yes to this!
Thanks, Lesley! I think that, once we realize how exhausting wallowing actually is, it's hard to go back! I've learned to feel it and let it pass through rather than hold on (because, you know, it needs to be examined, fully inspected). Let it pass and let it go. And don't be afraid to just have a good cry. Get it out. 20 minutes later, things will feel much better. Aside from slightly puffy eyes. But those, too, shall pass! xo
Pain is pain. No matter how you slice it. That's my wisdom of the day. Hehehe. Great piece. It took me a long time to learn the things you mention. Important stuff.
Thanks, CK. Time and repetition are two really great teachers. xo
Thank you for the shout-out Sandra!! But also, thank you for the invitation (nudging? shoving?) to dig deeper. To get realer. We got lost in the cliches of grief, the surface-level stories. But if we stay there, we're going to miss a lot of the healing, and a lot of the gifts! Deeply enjoying your sassy little substack, and good luck with your seminar!!
Thanks so much, Sue! I truly appreciate it! It's funny how we both want to avoid pain and feel the need to stay in it, as if moving forward makes us less human. As if the pain is something we need. We don't need the pain, just the lesson from it. Pain is the wrapping paper. What we learn from it is the gift. xo